Male-Female Inequality

November 21, 2011

In the majority of known societies throughout human history, males have dominated females. In the majority of societies today, this situation continues. In the future, however, men and women will understand their basic equality and importance to each other. This growth in awareness, particularly by men who are finally learning the importance of functionally healthy and whole women to their own well-being, is the single necessary and sufficient cause of the eradication of social ills, from poverty to war to psychosis to addiction to child abuse.

Failure to correct these ills, which are causes and effects of the ongoing cycle of human harm that we call “history,” could potentially result in the widespread self-destruction of humanity as our collective, fragmented minds and emotions continue to cause a global mindset of competition and defense, rather than cooperation and assistance.

The popular perception (because it’s an observable behavior) is that male domination of women harms the woman, but not necessarily the man. This most common point of view, however, ignores the inner world of man and woman—perhaps because each person’s inner life is unknown and unobservable to others unless the person explains his or her inner world to them.

The nature of sexual-emotional harm is such that it wounds a person’s innermost feelings and self-images, the very parts of the self that are least likely to be disclosed except in an intimate relationship. These intimate parts are of course the parts of the self most harmed—cut off from awareness—in the case of emotional-sexual harm. This block to intimacy affects both partners.

We see, then, that the cycle of harm between the sexes is a difficult problem to admit and thus identify—much less overcome—in a culture whose members are nearly universally caught up in the mindset of conflict, rather than peace, between men and women. It is similarly difficult to overcome for individuals who have been harmed (or who have harmed) in such a way, and who thus operate every day without the richness of existence and unity that intimacy creates.

This conflict between the sexes—and, by extension, between people in general—is largely a result of the Great Misunderstanding: that men and women are not absolutely essential to each other’s emotional and spiritual well-being and growth. In reality, we are exactly that to each other. The Great Misunderstanding was propagated first by men (who are of course more physically powerful than women) and then culturally instilled in both males and females (by both men and women) as part of the socialization process. This pattern occurred nearly universally, very early in human history. We can see examples of the Great Misunderstanding, and sometimes even its origins, in ancient literature and scriptures.

But we can find traces of understanding about the importance of the sexes as well—especially in pre-Christian pagan or nature religions. These people recognized the power and relevance of the female aspect of life and honored it equally with the male. Modern Western religions, on the other hand, typically revere the male aspect and subjugate or ignore the equally important female.

Recently, however, there has been a resurgence of female-worship in new or throwback “neo-pagan” and nature religions among people who desire to revere both male and female equally.

This is a step in the direction of resolving the historical inequality between males and females.

Why I Will Never Live an Ordinary Life

September 24, 2011

Never will I live an ordinary life, and here’s why:

1) People who live the ordinary life are people in large numbers—the masses. The masses are almost always wrong. Therefore, whatever people in large numbers are doing, it’s wise to first consider doing the opposite.

People tend to simply follow the crowd, and those who lead the crowds very often have their own self-promotion in mind, at the expense of others. This is wrong because you don’t really help yourself when you harm other people. You also don’t help anyone else while harming yourself! I’m not into being harmed while believing that I’m being helped.

2) History has shown me that people in large numbers usually don’t understand or care about the effects that their actions will have on people beyond their own social circle. The idea doesn’t even seem to cross their minds a lot of the time. I love and enjoy the people closest to me, but I also think about people beyond my own time and place.

3) The ordinary life is pre-packaged and sold to the masses by those with the most power to influence them. These influences include politicians, government agencies, the media (including radio, newspaper and TV outlets, as well as book publishers, magazines and movie studios), large corporations, religious institutions, schools and universities, banks, and insurance companies.

The purpose of the ordinary life is to enslave the masses and to further enrich and empower those who already have great wealth and power (mostly folks like politicians and corporate élites). The masses are enslaved by their belief that the ordinary life is the most desirable. It is the most desirable—to those who deliberately enhance their own temporal power and wealth at the expense of the masses. These people, by the way, believe that they deserve this enrichment at the expense of the masses because the masses are too stupid to break free from the ordinary life.

At any rate, the only real power is the power to determine the events and relationships in your own life. You can use that power, once you discover it within yourself, to create a meaningful life for yourself based on your own talents, interests, and abilities.

4) The ordinary life leaves little or no room for real personal growth and enjoyment of life. Work and other “responsibilities” consume our time, and we use up our creative energy maintaining and repairing the things we own (or which own us). In short, it’s boring, demanding, and stressful. I refuse to spend the bulk of my life doing what other people want me to do because I know better than they do.

5) In the ordinary life, real living is only experienced in occasional moments, in the breaks between “responsibilities.” After these moments we sigh and say, “Now it’s time to get back to work.” We spend most of our time doing what we don’t like, so we can have things we don’t need, and spend our vacations pretending that they are the reward for hard work.

Yet a life is possible where the things we don’t like are only an occasional interruption to our satisfying real life.

The ordinary life, though, isn’t a material thing. It’s a mindset, just as the Good Life is a mindset. It’s possible to live an outwardly ordinary life, even while living a rich, rewarding, exemplary inner life. You can live an extraordinary life among ordinary people. You can shine while bagging groceries or answering the phone or wiping the baby’s nose. It’s all up to you and what you do with yourself.

Eventually, your wonderful inner life will leak out into your ordinary outer life. That’s when sparks start to fly, the machine grinds to a halt, and you can finally let go of the controls. You don’t need them anyway.

(Written in 2005 and freshly edited on December 21, 2016.)

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