Five Virtues and Feeling Fully

December 30, 2011

Our emotions indicate our alignment with our inner being.  When we feel good, we’re thinking or doing something right (we’re in alignment).  When we feel bad, we’re thinking or doing something wrong (we’re out of alignment).

Is this absolute?  Is happy always good, is angry always worse, and is sad always even worse? Is not our awareness of our emotional state, and our will to act in accordance with our understanding of it, more important than the simple pleasure-or-pain reaction of the flesh to inner alignment, which emotion is?

Sometimes negative emotion is appropriate to a situation, and anger or grief is the correct response, in the moment—but not forever. It’s appropriate, then, to feel emotion completely and express it to its completion, at which time the emotional state automatically returns to its “normal,” default positive state.

That is how to feel good, and how to be in alignment with one’s inner being:express the negative emotions as the experiences that conjure them are encountered.

We are a storehouse of past experience, and we continually encounter present experiences that “activate” parts of our being that carry the impression of those past experiences. Much of our “job” here—much of our purpose as currently-living human beings—is to discharge this burden of negative imprints so that we don’t pass them on to others through the process of harm.

Harm and its negative effects are like a cancer that has infected the human species, and which it is our purpose to find and eradicate within ourselves. This takes much strengthawarenesscourage, insight, and honesty to accomplish. The better we live these five “virtues,” the more we come into alignment with Who We Really Are, and the more we are (and do) “good” in the world:

Strength is the willingness and ability to endure unpleasantness.

Awareness is breadth and depth of knowledge, consciousness, and understanding.

Courage is the willingness and ability to endure fear.

Insight is inner awareness.

Honesty is the willingness to accept reality, rather than overlooking, ignoring, or lying about it.

It seems that the best way to feel better is to feel what you are feeling, fully; to accept that you feel that way; to understand that it’s okay to feel it in this moment; and to express (and thereby release) the negative emotions that present experience arouses from the inner impressions of past experience.

And what could feel better than feeling how you really feel, instead of covering it up?

(written in 2009)

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The Goddess and Me

December 28, 2011

There are more things between Heaven and Earth than are dreamt of in your philosophy. 

—“Wild Bill” Shakespeare

  • She took his burdens
  • Into her body
  • And disposed of them
  • Like his mother always wanted to do
  • But couldn’t.
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  • His sins disappeared
  • In the soft grass of her skin.
  • She welcomed them.
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  • Thank you, Love. Can I call you ‘Love’?
  • He asked the Earth
  • In the darkness of the New Moon,
  • Feeling her body fall through his fingers
  • As sediment.
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  • With dirty fingertips,
  • He caressed her.
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  • Love is fleeting,
  • In my experience.
  • Can you be my love?
  • Can you be my mother?
  • For they are the same,
  • At their root,
  • In my experience—
  • And you are the root of both.
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  • That which draws
  • Masculine to Feminine
  • Hints at something beneath,
  • Something more true
  • And more powerful
  • Than love of the past.
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  • Something perhaps more permanent—
  • Akin to dust and wind and flame (and water)—
  • Forever moving and therefore
  • True to its nature.
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  • She is gentle and brutal,
  • Quiet and violent,
  • Beautiful and harmonious.
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  • Gaia never rests, always produces.
  • Creating, destroying,
  • Being Herself.
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  • Meanwhile, the Cosmos
  • Ever turns, “above,”
  • Corkscrewing into the darkness
  • Between galaxies.
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  • And I connect them,
  • Earth and Heaven,
  • Somehow,
  • When I reach for the sky.
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(written in 2009)


Phlegm and Negativity

December 24, 2011

Phlegm is not a part of who you are—but you have some, don’t you? We all do. A certain small amount might even be considered healthy. Sometimes we have more phlegm, sometimes less. We tend to have more when we’re sick, or if the air is filthy. But none of us mistake our phlegm for who we are.

Yes, I know, phlegm is gross. But it’s important to understand.

Often, conditions like “allergies,” which mimic crying in their symptoms (teary eyes, runny nose, phlegm, etc.) are not caused by our environment, but by unexpressed negative emotion within us, which can be triggered by an environmental condition. Whatever emotion we do not express at the time we feel it (from day one!) remains within us—until we release it. If we don’t, it releases itself—through conditions like “allergies,” sinus infections, bronchitis, and many others. The environment (including pathogens) can trigger these conditions, but the inner cause remains.

In general, emotional health = physical health.

Imagine meeting someone who is sick and deciding, “I don’t like that person. He has way too much phlegm!” Would this be fair? Not even “fair”—would this becorrect? Would we be right in doing so, or would we be making a mistake in judgment?

Negativity is like phlegm. It’s so much like phlegm that releasing negativity on an emotional level almost equals releasing phlegm (and other fluids, like tears, sweat, and saliva) on a physical level. Let me repeat that: (emotional) negativity corresponds to (physical) phlegm! Phlegm is literally a physical manifestation of an emotional problem. Have you ever gotten sick with a cold or “allergies” at a time when you were enduring a lot of “stress” (negative emotion)? I have.

I’m not saying that all phlegm is because of negative emotion. For example, if it’s cold outside, my nose tends to run. If I work around a lot of dust, I tend to cough. I’m saying that in the same way that we produce phlegm in response to cold or dust, we also produce it in response to emotional irritants and negativity.

We can cry out (emotional) negativity in the same way that we cough up dust to get out (physical) irritants! Have you ever cried so hard that you cough? That’s a very good sign of release. Some religious traditions say that demons come out through coughing or vomiting when they leave the body. Indeed, is there a difference? Negativity is negativity, in my view.

Negativity is emotional sickness, in the same way that phlegm is physical sickness. To judge someone based on his negativity is like judging a man with a cough or runny nose—because he has a cough or runny nose.

While considering this, though, it’s important to understand that a man who is in negativity is contagious in the same way that a man who has a cold is contagious. We can still suffer, ourselves, from the effects of his sickness while he is sick—the sickness can spread to us. When negativity is gone, though (like when a cold is over), he is well again. Negativity, when it leaves us, goes with a release of phlegm, taking the emotional sickness with it.

Negativity is no more a part of who we are than phlegm is. It only afflicts us when we are sick with it, and only until we get well again.

(written in 2009)


54 Principles of Emotional Healing

November 25, 2011

Emotion is energy, felt in the body and inner being as pain or pleasure.

Painful emotions include despair, shame, grief, and anger.

Pleasant emotions include courage, compassion, gratitude, and Love.

In this context:

  • Painful emotion, negative emotion, negative energy, negativity, emotional pain, and “evil” are the same thing.
  • Positive emotion, positive energy, emotional pleasure, and “goodness” are the same thing.
  • Emotional release is the expression and depletion of painful emotion (negativity) that results in a return to positive emotion (“goodness”).

The following principles can serve as a guideline for people who want to know how to heal from emotional pain and improve their ability to function in the world and in good relationships.

Emotional Pain and Negativity

1. Emotional pain splits and splinters the self and the person’s energy and focus, producing functional incompetence in life and harmful, destructive relationships.

2. Emotional pleasure results in personal power and mutually satisfying relationships.

3. All emotions are experienced (felt) through either repression or expression.

4. Positive emotion is transformed into negativity through repression.

5. Negativity is transformed into goodness through expression.

6. Emotional pleasure is a sign of healing: moving toward wholeness and unity with the True Self.

7. Emotional pain is a sign of self-splinteredness and the need for emotional healing.

8. Emotional harm is caused by negative emotion (negativity) in the person harming. It causes negativity in the person harmed.

9.  Emotional healing means releasing negative emotion from your being through expression. Positive emotion automatically replaces it.

10. Human history is the process of emotional healing—overcoming or releasing negative emotion (negativity) caused by harm.

11. Everyone (at this point in history) receives harm and negativity at some point in life.

12. Negativity came to you through someone else, who harmed you.

13. The negativity you got wasn’t the other person’s, either. They got it from someone else, who harmed them. And so on, back in time.

14. Negative events happen to you for a reason: you are helping to rid the world of evil by releasing the negativity someone else gave you instead of passing it on to others.

15. You are more powerful than any negativity.

16. With any emotion (positive or negative), you can either express (release) or repress (hold) it. These are your only options.

Repression

17. Repression is postponing the expression of (or, holding) your negative emotion.

18. Repression demands a lot of energy from you.

19. The pain you feel (in the background) when you repress negative emotion is not intense, but it can last a long time—even until death.

20. Repression affects every aspect of your life in a bad way, especially your most intimate relationships.

21. Repressed emotion causes or contributes to many physical ailments, including headaches, stomachaches, high blood pressure, sexual dysfunction, anxiety, and cancer.

22. Your emotional pain will last as long as you’re willing to expend energy repressing the emotion.

23. When the perceived cost of repression exceeds the perceived benefit, you will express (release) the negativity.  (This can be inconvenient.)

24. Repression leads to the spread of negativity through your actions.

25. Repression kills. Expression brings life.

Expression

26. Expressing an emotion is the same as feeling it completely, the way you didn’t when an event happened to you (or you wouldn’t be holding it now).

27. When you express an emotion fully, you release it from your inner being.

28. When you express (release) negative emotion, you are involved in the most human of experiences: emotional healing.

29. When you express an emotion fully, others can see the emotion by observing your actions.  You can’t hide it.

30. Expressing negative emotion stops the historic transfer of negativity (evil) and spares others from harm—that is, it keeps you from transferring your negativity to them by harming them.

31. The pain you feel when you release negativity is intense, but temporary.

32. With experience, emotional release gets easier and faster.

33. To release negativity completely, you have to relive (emotionally) the experience that brought it to you.  You do not have to remember the event, just feel the pain.

34. When you release negativity, positive emotion takes its place, letting you know that you did well.

35. Although intimacy facilitates emotional release, the release itself is private and personal.

Intimacy

36. The male and female creative principles are complementary aspects of (two “halves” of) the wholeness that resides at the core of our inner being.

37. The male and female creative principles long for unity together, in humans.

38. Intimacy is the closest that physical beings can come to re-claiming the unity of wholeness in the physical.

39. Intimacy is witnessing, and accepting, another person’s emotional pain and inner ugliness.

40. Acceptance is Love.

41. Intimacy is the highest calling of human relationships.

42. Intimacy creates the strongest bonds possible between two people (except possibly for motherhood).

43. Intimacy is the result of two people’s desire to achieve wholeness and emotional healing.

44. Intimacy and monogamy are not the same thing, and neither requires the other.  They are different worlds, which nevertheless can overlap.

45. The desire for wholeness and emotional healing is a result of sexual maturity (puberty).

46. Through intimacy, we watch ourselves and each other become weak—and then more powerful.

47. Intimacy is a powerful force against negativity. No negativity is stronger than Love, which intimacy can produce (indirectly).

48. Intimacy creates a safe environment that fosters emotional healing (releasing negativity), which results in growth toward wholeness.

49. Sex exists ultimately to produce intimacy. Reproduction is a convenient by-product and evolutionary mechanism.

50. Ideally, intimacy releases negativity before sex produces children. This spares them of the burden of their parents’ negativity.

51. When sex produces children before intimacy produces emotional healing, the children bear the burden of their parents’ unresolved negativity.

52. Negativity is a physical (outer) phenomenon. Intimacy is an inner phenomenon.

53. The inner is more powerful than the outer.

54. Emotional healing will one day eradicate negativity (“evil”) in the world.


Love and Your Life

October 7, 2011

Whatever you see “out there,” in the world you interact with, is a reflection of something within yourself. Love in you produces Love in your life. Same thing with hate or any other mindset.

The world is only dominated by negative values like hate because people don’t understand what’s going on here. If they discover the source of the negative in themselves, Love will spring forth in their lives automatically.

Love is what’s left when you take away the bad stuff.

Love is fulfilled in the world only as people, one at a time, discover it within themselves. When you find it for yourself, you won’t see hate dominating the world, even though other people will because they remain in their old mindset. Love always wins in the end, because in the end Love is all there really is. Everything negative is only a corruption or distortion of that basic value.

You can right wrongs because Right (Love) is all that really is.


Why You Cry

October 6, 2011

You cry for a reason. Other than crying because of physical pain or injury, you also cry in order to release negativity or to release yourself from an attachment when your view of reality changes.

What do you think about when you’re crying? Pay attention to your thoughts and they will lead you to the reason for your tears. If is sorrow because of a loss, accept the loss while you’re crying. If it’s desire for the past, accept that the past has happened and you live NOW.

Whatever the case, crying is a sign of attachment to the past, but it’s also the means of release from that attachment—if you pay attention to your thoughts when you’re crying. Otherwise, you can cry until you die and never get any better from it.


Negativity

September 12, 2011

Life is like mining.

As we live, we gather for ourselves the raw dirt of experience. That “dirt” consists of a load of information that we sift through to select the bits that we incorporate into our view of the world.

Our World View

There are many bits of information, of many different qualities, in our experience, and we accept or reject them based on our present world view.

Our world view, at any time, consists of our judgment of the nature and qualities of reality, based on the values we hold in mind, and reinforced by those bits of information we glean from the experiences we “mine” from reality in our daily life.

We choose the information that makes up our world view from all the experiences we encounter…based on our own world view!

Thus, our experience tends to reinforce whatever idea of reality we already have.

You encounter a million and one things in each day, and you don’t notice nearly a million of them. For example, I might have seen an ad for an upcoming marathon. If I did, I didn’t notice it–because running marathons isn’t part of my version of reality. My uncle Mike, on the other hand, who plans his vacations around marathons, definitely would have noticed it!

There is no such thing as a “good” or “bad” experience (although experiences vary in the amount of pleasure or pain we feel, or in how much they jibe with what we want to happen).

Each bit of life experience comes to us judgment-free until we judge it (again based on our world view!). Yet it has value to us because it is a reflection of the mind elements that we consist of. It has value to us because we can learn more about who we are by noticing what things in our experience seem important to us—and what things don’t.

Life Reflects YOU

This is because, just as life is like mining, it is also like a mirror. Just as we pick and choose from our vast experience the bits of information that we already value, so it appears to us that Life occurs in a manner consistent with the values that we already hold in mind.

Thus, as we are, so we experience life:

because of our world view, which affects what we “see” in life, what we see is a reflection of what we are.

To change what you experience (or what you perceive as your experience), you have to change the way you see the world. Amazing things can and will happen when you become aware of the way you see things—and the effect that your view has on your entire life!

“Good” and “bad” are concepts (in this case, judgments) that many people hold in their world view. How do they judge the “good” from the “bad”? Primarily,

  1. violating their own childhood teachings is “bad” and
  2. physical pain and, by extension, death is “bad”—especially their own.

“Good,” then, is the opposite:

  1. seeing the fulfillment of their childhood teachings in their own experience and
  2. avoiding physical pain and death.

Although all events in our experience are neutral in value until we ascribe value to them, the events that we pick out of our wealth of experience are important to our understanding.

They reflect what we value; they also reflect the thoughts we focus on. Our thoughts affect us in two possible ways: they can be positive (nudging us closer to a clear understanding of Life and Love) or negative (hindering our growth).

Negativity, Growth, and Love

Negativity is the accumulation of negative thought. It is also known as sin, evil, baggage, and negative emotions (such as anger, frustration, fear, and depression).

Our thoughts tend to snowball upon each other. Negativity begets negativity; Love begets Love. The good news is that you are more powerful than any negativity. But you can’t beat Love. Although negativity obscures Love temporarily, Love is always there, even if it’s out of sight.

Love is the goal of growth.  Growth is the casting away of negativity; Love is its absence.

If we don’t deal with the negativity that we have accumulated in our lives, it gradually overwhelms us and obscures our perception of the world. The results are:

  1. we see the world as an ever-more hostile or bad place, and other people as our enemies, and
  2. we lose sight of the universal value, Love, and experience it less in our life.

We become miserable, suspicious, cold, closed: we become evil.

Everything that is done can be undone except death, which is itself an undoing. If we have accumulated negativity, we can also cut it off. The way we do so is by becoming aware of it.

Then we can learn how we “got” it and we can undo it in our own lives by seeing the error of its presence and literally commanding it to leave.

Just as the cells of our bodies are part of us, and yet they are also separate yet dependent organisms, so can the elements that make up our personalities be thought of as separate, yet dependent, entities and can be treated as such.

A negative mind element, like a cancer cell, didn’t “come from” anywhere, but was always a part of our psychological makeup. It has only been corrupted.

It is our task to do away with our negativity. Then we can truly say that we have overcome ourselves and the world.

(Written in 2004 and freshly edited on December 19, 2016.)


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