Okay, you’re not exactly dragging negativity “out of your soul” when you do this or any other technique for self-improvement. The soul lies on the other side (so to speak) of the negativity within us, and when we clear out the negative junk we’re:
1) more able to see clearly the soul, or inner being, that’s always there and always has been there,
2) less burdened by the pain and wrong thinking that has obscured our own deepest self from our view,
3) lighter (in emotional “weight”) because we’re no longer carrying negative junk from the past,
4) lighter (in inner “vision”) because the soul shines light from inside us, and we can see more clearly in our everyday experience because of this inner light, and
5) more able to think clearly, respond appropriately, and be reasonable and loving everywhere, to everyone, at every time.
So, the process of removing negativity is a rather important one. The risks are few and light (though they might seem to be many or heavy), and the benefits are unlimited.
The advantages of living without our mental-emotional processes being messed up by past mental conditioning and unexpressed emotional baggage are many, and the effects of reducing our negative load can be astonishing to us.
I’m not selling snake oil here. I’m helping my fellow humans to empower themselves–quickly, easily, freely, and permanently.
Virtually all adults are aware that a present-time sensory perception (like a smell or a song) can “take us back” to a moment in the past when that sensory impression carried meaning. For example, kissing in the front seat to “Unchained Melody” as a teenager might result in that memory–AND THE FEELINGS ASSOCIATED WITH IT–coming back into present awareness when that song plays when we’re 30, or 40, or 50.
Time has no meaning with regard to the strong memory-bonds that link together past and present experiences, when those experiences are cemented into place by strong (positive or negative) emotion.
I call these bonds “attachments”. Attachments hold us in place to events in the past that were strongly powerful or meaningful or emotional or traumatic to us when they happened. Attachments also can hold us back from GOOD, and they limit our FREEDOM in the present.
They can cripple us as truly as physical paralysis.
A song can be a powerful way to access the past, through memory, and at the same time to TAP INTO THE NEGATIVE EMOTION THAT WE WISH TO REMOVE. Removal of negativity, again, results in many good things for us and for our loved ones.
Here’s how it’s done:
If you feel burdened by a negative emotion or event in the past, and there’s a song associated with the event or emotion, get by yourself with plenty of time and space to dive into your emotional being. For example, when my last marriage was ending, there was a song that I associated with the pain of that break.
(I’ve woken up in the morning with such a song in my mind during times of emotional distress. I trust this direction from my inner being–which is more active when we’re asleep–and I follow it.)
THE SONG MUST BE MEANINGFUL AND POWERFUL ENOUGH THAT IT MOVES YOU NEAR TEARS WHEN YOU HEAR IT.
Again, get alone. Sit down with plenty of tissues and a pen and paper or word processor. Turn the music up enough that you can begin to feel the emotion well up within you.
As the song plays and you feel the emotion, and you remember the person or event that the song activates in your memory, begin to give voice to your thoughts. Write them down. Speak them if you want. The goal is to give them expression.
Accept whatever comes up, without judgment or censorship. Allow. Let go. Surrender.
If you begin to start to cry, do not resist it. STIFLING OUR TEARS IS ONE OF THE WORST THINGS WE CAN DO–EVEN WORSE THAN SMOKING CIGARETTES (which, incidentally, helps us to stifle our emotions).
The goal here is to open ourselves and allow emotion to flow through us without hindrance. Let it out.
Emotional blockage is the cause of many, many, MANY problems in life!
Cry. Follow your thoughts and give them voice in an unbroken flow if you can. Your thoughts will lead you to the emotions that are waiting to come out.
Do not be afraid.
Cry as deeply as you can. You want to tap into your emotional “oil well” and let whatever is in there ravage your mind and body. You want to surrender to whatever comes, without censoring yourself.
This can be scary, but with practice you will see that there’s absolutely NO danger here. If you end up on the floor in the fetal position, flopping around like a fish, with snot running down your face, this is EXCELLENT.
If you end up in laughter when the negative stuff is done coming out and your “oil well” is empty, you’ve hit bottom and CLEARED OUT THE NEGATIVE EFFECTS OF THIS PARTICULAR NEGATIVITY ON YOUR CURRENT DAILY EXPERIENCE!
This is a wonderful victory in your life, with immediate results.
Finally, rest. This process is a tremendous expenditure of energy from yourself. Take a nap if you feel like it. Stay away from contrary people for a few hours if you can. You will be tender, like a new seedling that has just sprung from fertile soil.
Like a butterfly that has just emerged from a cocoon.
Do not call anyone. They will not be in the same place as you. They will not understand. Wait until later to talk to others about it, if you feel like sharing what you learned and experienced.
I’ve used this technique, even while someone else was in the room with me. A good friend happened to come in while I was in the middle of it. He silently sat and allowed me to finish. I say this to remove fear from you.
There is nothing to fear.
There is everything to gain.
Much love to you.